Comments for http://www.mourningintojoy.com Living. Learning. Loving. Becoming Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:58:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Too Much Church=No Husband? by TJ http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=665#comment-2573 TJ Wed, 21 Mar 2012 20:58:29 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=665#comment-2573 TOO MUCH CHURCH, ETC. I'M MARRIED BUT WHERE IS MY WIFE? Man! I truly enjoyed your blog. I am 40yrs. old, grew up in church, married and w/2 beautiful children. I am a believer and TRY to live according to the teachings of Jesus. But MAN! TOO MUCH CHURCH IS GETTING ON MY NERVES! UGH!!! There's this constant nagging of: Go to Church Go to Bible Study Go to Choir rehearsal (s) Go to Leadership meeting Go to Sunday evening service at some other church Go to Church vacation Go support pastor preaching at some other church Go to Church outing (some play or something) But very little urgency to time with my wife and my children. And...by the way...my wife and I are both ministers. We were called to serve (I believe) for the building of the Kingdom of God. But to my disdain...much of what is done is for man...NOT GOD (heh, although my wife may say differently). You see, my wife enjoys the ACTIVE life as you do....particularly in the CHURCH. But her various ACTIVITIES pulls her away from home, etc. Mind you, I'm not trying to change her but getting her to see how her ACTIVITIES (which she truly enjoys) often causes (I believe) a wedge b/w us and time together with our children. You see, I believe one the greatest aspects of ministry is MARRIAGE. There are SO MANY lessons to learn about life, people...via a marriage that it's results could truly be life changing. However, your grandmother was right "too much of anything is a bad thing." You see, my wife does SO MUCH MOST OF THE TIME that on ocassion I worry about her health, safety and sanity. While she claims that such activities are her passion....to see her passed out on the bed or on the couch, with her iPad or cell phone on her stomach, with her mouth open (hehe) shows me how truly pitiful things really are. I have talked and fussed about this before. Now, I pray and move on. Sometimes I believe (as your grandmother suggested) that my wife equates such activities with "holiness". I am now allowing God to fix or change things according to His purpose in my wife, in me and our family. His timing is showing results, results that edify and empower our marriage and our family. God has a way of showing us that although he appreciates what we do for Him (towards others) he truly values the QUALITY TIME spent with him and the time spent with one's spouse and family. Hey! He had 12 disciples. Only 3 really got close to him. And 1 he loved. :) By the way. I pray God sends you the man he has for you. I also pray that YOU accept who God sends. Marriage is no joke. Consider the stats of divorce among Christians. This doesn't mean you should give up the things you enjoy doing for your spouse. Just put things into perspective. Consider Hebrews 5:21-33 God Bless! TOO MUCH CHURCH, ETC. I’M MARRIED BUT WHERE IS MY WIFE?

Man! I truly enjoyed your blog. I am 40yrs. old, grew up in church, married and w/2 beautiful children. I am a believer and TRY to live according to the teachings of Jesus. But MAN! TOO MUCH CHURCH IS GETTING ON MY NERVES! UGH!!!
There’s this constant nagging of:
Go to Church
Go to Bible Study
Go to Choir rehearsal (s)
Go to Leadership meeting
Go to Sunday evening service at some other church
Go to Church vacation
Go support pastor preaching at some other church
Go to Church outing (some play or something)

But very little urgency to time with my wife and my children. And…by the way…my wife and I are both ministers. We were called to serve (I believe) for the building of the Kingdom of God. But to my disdain…much of what is done is for man…NOT GOD (heh, although my wife may say differently).

You see, my wife enjoys the ACTIVE life as you do….particularly in the CHURCH. But her various ACTIVITIES pulls her away from home, etc. Mind you, I’m not trying to change her but getting her to see how her ACTIVITIES (which she truly enjoys) often causes (I believe) a wedge b/w us and time together with our children.

You see, I believe one the greatest aspects of ministry is MARRIAGE. There are SO MANY lessons to learn about life, people…via a marriage that it’s results could truly be life changing. However, your grandmother was right “too much of anything is a bad thing.”

You see, my wife does SO MUCH MOST OF THE TIME that on ocassion I worry about her health, safety and sanity. While she claims that such activities are her passion….to see her passed out on the bed or on the couch, with her iPad or cell phone on her stomach, with her mouth open (hehe) shows me how truly pitiful things really are.

I have talked and fussed about this before. Now, I pray and move on. Sometimes I believe (as your grandmother suggested) that my wife equates such activities with “holiness”.

I am now allowing God to fix or change things according to His purpose in my wife, in me and our family. His timing is showing results, results that edify and empower our marriage and our family.

God has a way of showing us that although he appreciates what we do for Him (towards others) he truly values the QUALITY TIME spent with him and the time spent with one’s spouse and family.

Hey! He had 12 disciples. Only 3 really got close to him. And 1 he loved. :)

By the way. I pray God sends you the man he has for you. I also pray that YOU accept who God sends. Marriage is no joke. Consider the stats of divorce among Christians.

This doesn’t mean you should give up the things you enjoy doing for your spouse. Just put things into perspective. Consider Hebrews 5:21-33

God Bless!

]]> Comment on Whitney by Mya http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=894#comment-2514 Mya Fri, 09 Mar 2012 17:44:32 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=894#comment-2514 I want you to know how much I appreciated reading your post. I have not written anything on my blog about Whitney Elizabeth. I have to say that as a 10-year-old girl I LOVED her. I had a decent singing voice and won a bit of a mini-contest singing "The Greatest Love of All." I am convinced that she is in the Presence of the Greatest Lover of All right now because the one thing no one can say or do is speak about her relationship with God in a negative light. For all the gossip and hearsay about her last days, the prevalent story was how much she loved Jesus, even when she was living in a place that was far beneath her potential. She never stopped loving God through her struggle; this has been the common message from those that had some personal knowledge of her or had a closer relationship than the rest of us. I was encouraged by this testimony more than any song she could ever sing, though her voice was amazing! It helped me to solidify my relationship with God the more; it helped me fight back from the place where I struggled with hurt, pain, rejection, addiction, and bad choices that I had been steadily making. At the end of the matter, you are correct. None of us are perfect. We all have our cross to bear. We all have flesh that needs to be nailed to that cross. But we all have one end and that end will be to stand before the God that created us when life here on earth is over. I want to be able to stand there, like I believe Whitney Elizabeth did, as an overcomer. Better is the day of one's death than the day of one's birth. We fly away Home, if we have a relationship with the Lord. I want you to know how much I appreciated reading your post. I have not written anything on my blog about Whitney Elizabeth. I have to say that as a 10-year-old girl I LOVED her. I had a decent singing voice and won a bit of a mini-contest singing “The Greatest Love of All.” I am convinced that she is in the Presence of the Greatest Lover of All right now because the one thing no one can say or do is speak about her relationship with God in a negative light. For all the gossip and hearsay about her last days, the prevalent story was how much she loved Jesus, even when she was living in a place that was far beneath her potential. She never stopped loving God through her struggle; this has been the common message from those that had some personal knowledge of her or had a closer relationship than the rest of us. I was encouraged by this testimony more than any song she could ever sing, though her voice was amazing! It helped me to solidify my relationship with God the more; it helped me fight back from the place where I struggled with hurt, pain, rejection, addiction, and bad choices that I had been steadily making. At the end of the matter, you are correct. None of us are perfect. We all have our cross to bear. We all have flesh that needs to be nailed to that cross. But we all have one end and that end will be to stand before the God that created us when life here on earth is over. I want to be able to stand there, like I believe Whitney Elizabeth did, as an overcomer. Better is the day of one’s death than the day of one’s birth. We fly away Home, if we have a relationship with the Lord.

]]> Comment on Whitney by Victor http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=894#comment-2352 Victor Tue, 21 Feb 2012 13:00:40 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=894#comment-2352 Beautiful post Miss Rudolph! Beautiful post Miss Rudolph!

]]> Comment on To My Unwanted Friend: by Don http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=890#comment-2294 Don Sat, 11 Feb 2012 19:47:43 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=890#comment-2294 <i>And then, you find a way to sneak back into my life.</i> Hilarious. Smiley Face actually pulled off an entire post dedicated to her period. Lol. And, in such an eloquent manner. And then, you find a way to sneak back into my life.

Hilarious. Smiley Face actually pulled off an entire post dedicated to her period. Lol. And, in such an eloquent manner.

]]> Comment on To My Unwanted Friend: by Victor http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=890#comment-2277 Victor Tue, 07 Feb 2012 03:05:19 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=890#comment-2277 Sorry to hear! Sorry to hear!

]]> Comment on Unclean: Secret Sins by HisDaughter83 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=840#comment-2236 HisDaughter83 Mon, 30 Jan 2012 19:42:32 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=840#comment-2236 Aww Don! That's awesome! Let the Holy Spirit convict you!! =) Aww Don! That’s awesome! Let the Holy Spirit convict you!! =)

]]> Comment on Unclean: Secret Sins by HisDaughter83 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=840#comment-2235 HisDaughter83 Mon, 30 Jan 2012 19:40:51 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=840#comment-2235 Thanks Moe! Thanks Moe!

]]> Comment on Unclean: Secret Sins by HisDaughter83 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=840#comment-2234 HisDaughter83 Mon, 30 Jan 2012 19:40:38 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=840#comment-2234 Thank you! =) Thank you! =)

]]> Comment on Unclean: Secret Sins by Don http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=840#comment-2231 Don Mon, 30 Jan 2012 03:35:36 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=840#comment-2231 I feel seriously unclean after reading... I feel seriously unclean after reading…

]]> Comment on When Is Enough, Enough? by Don http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=845#comment-2230 Don Mon, 30 Jan 2012 03:23:36 +0000 http://www.mourningintojoy.com/?p=845#comment-2230 I've always felt enough is enough once the question is posed. But, as you stated, the walk is yours and only yours. So, the answer lies in you. I’ve always felt enough is enough once the question is posed. But, as you stated, the walk is yours and only yours. So, the answer lies in you.

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